10 Things I wish I was Told in School

I’m 27. I do not think about the past and do not regret it too much. But sometimes I would like to have learned a little more of other things. Things I have learned over the past years. It would be great to have self-development lessons in courses at school.

But I still think it would be nice to highlight a few hours of all these activities on some German lessons in self-development. Perhaps only one hour a week in high school. This could be useful for many students and on a larger scale for our whole society.

So here are 10 things that I would have liked to learn more about in school (or just known about).

1) Rule 80-20 or the Pareto principle.
80 % of all income received bring only 20% of your activities. From this we can conclude that much of what we do doesn’t really bear income and therefore is not necessary. So many things you do,might  not so useful, or even not as important as it might have seemed to be.

You can just throw engaged – or severely cut back on the time you spend on a huge variety of activities. And if you do, you will have more time and energy on what really brings results, happiness, satisfaction, and so on.

2) Rule of Parkinson.
You can do things a lot faster than you realize. So the more time you give yourself to for any job, the more time it will take in the end. You can move faster than you think. This law states that work expands in volume and apparent complexity to fill all her allotted time. For example, if you promise yourself to find a solution in a week, it would seem that the problem becomes more complicated, and you will spend more and more time trying to come to a decision.
 So focus your time on finding solutions. Give yourself one hour (instead of the whole day) or the day (instead of the whole week ) to address the problem. This will cause your brain to focus on finding solutions and actions.

The result may not be as perfect as if you spent a week on the task , but ,as mentioned in the preceding paragraph, it is still 80 % of the results obtained from 20 % of the effort. You can also come to a better solution, because you do not overdo it.

This law will help you do the job faster, improve your concentration and ability to provide you with more free time in which you can concentrate fully on what you need to do. And in your subconscious you will not have outstanding work sticking out, causing stress.

3) The group operation.
This is a method of performing boring and monotonous tasks as quickly as possible. A good way to do it quickly – group tasks. That is, you make them all one after another. You can deal with them quickly, because you will have less “time acceleration” than if you have them stretched out. And when you group, you are more involved in the work and more focused.

4) Give first and then get.
Give first and then receive. Life is not like a restaurant where you pay for the food only after it is received. In life, to achieve something, you must first “pay” for it.

If you want to maximize what you get (money, love, kindness, opportunities etc.), you have to increase what you give. Because in the future, you very often get exactly what give. Maybe it would be nice to get something for nothing. But this rarely happens.

5) Do not brake – run ahead!
so you first get rid of expectations, and secondly it will give you pleasure, because you will get the feeling that you have the power to control your life.

6) Errors and failures – it is good.
It’s good. Thanks to errors you gain experience, learn new things and learn how to avoid such mistakes in the future. Handled properly, the errors can teach you to be a successful person.

When your having “negative experience”, ask yourself: what an opportunity it gives me? What could be useful for me in this situation in the future? One negative experience – over time – can help you to get a set of a very positive experiences.

Negative experiences, mistakes and failures can sometimes be even more useful to success, because they teach you something completely new, what would you would never have been taught by another successful experience.

7) Use the reticulation activating system (RAS)
Use the reticulation activating system (RAS). RAS is a focusing system. To use it, you need to focus on what you want and keep the attention.

8) Your attitude determines reality
Most pessimists consider themselves realists. However, in reality, the reason that bad things happen with them, is because of their reticular activating system constantly tuned to the perception of negativity. That is why they find confirmation of their pessimistic ideas. In any case to be an optimist is much better than the realist. Think about it.

9) In order to feel happy, you need to be grateful.
In order to feel happy,you need to be grateful. The fact is that only in a few minutes when you feel gratitude, you can turn a bad mood into a good one. In this regard, each person will be useful to practice being grateful. This tool will also help you maintain a positive attitude towards  reality and thus directly linked with the preceding paragraph.

10) From 80 to 90% of what you fear will never happen.
From 80 to 90% of what you fear will never happen. In fact, our fears are greatly exaggerated. In most cases, anxiety – it’s a waste of time.
Of course, it’s easy to say. But if you remind yourself how little of what you feared in your life, has happened in reality, you can begin to worry less and less.